What If

What if I decided to start living a healthier life style? Aahhh, what If I decided to compete in a fitness competition. What would that look like? What If, I challenged myself for one year to eat healthy, exercise daily, watch my macros, and count my calories?
What if I started to create more? Like, What If I fearlessly started Rich Scents. I mean, I go all in and create a whole system & process to make Rich Scents my business.
What if I explored all the places I’ve wanted to travel to? Africa, Canada, Croatia. What if I did the research, saved the money, and made it happen?
What if I started manifesting my life partner? Someone who is honest, patient, kind, respectful, loyal. You know, someone who shows me he is worthy of my love. Who is also a reflection of me and loves life.
What do I have to lose? I deserve it, right? I have so many dreams and I need to start acting like im going after them. I’m my own boss for my life and lately I’ve really been a really bad boss and I wo…

Acknowledging my Aggressions and Facing them

I go through my day in a bubble trying to stay optimistic and positive and always trying to look on the bright side on a daily basis.
However, that’s not really a good thing because it causes me to avoid any kind of conflict. Which is not practical or realistic.
I always want to go along to get along, to ya know, keep the peace and what not. Even if I DONT like XYZ. So YEAH basically, I be cold face lying! (in defense, I thought I was challenging myself by doing things I didn’t want to do) but that’s not cute or it is it a way to live.
So yeah im just over here working on my aggressions and facing them.

No one is that HAPPY!

"No one is that happy" You're right.

Happiness comes and goes. The goal is to choose joy in all circumstances.

The past few months have been a major transition for me. I was preoccupied in creating a perfect world that i lost myself and my first true love, God. On top of that a good friend of mine died. But in the grand scheme of things, i learned everything is temporary. moments. feelings. people. flowers. I learned love is about giving. everything. and letting it hurt. I learned vulnerability is always the right choice because its easy to be cold in a world that make it so difficult to be soft. And even when people don't do their part, its still up to you to do yours. I learned all things come in twos. life and death. pain and joy. salt and sugar. its the balance of the universe. I learned that going to therapy and prioritizing it is a life saver and mental illness is real. I realized people mean well but no one really cares about you so its up to you to. I can hon…


Today, I went to Starbucks to do some much-needed work and all of a sudden my mind wandered to the thought of my good friend Raye who had just passed away a couple of weeks ago; I could feel her spirit.  It was calm, relaxing and happy. Just like one of the days I saw her there in her element, she had a big ole smile on her face and said, " HEEEEY SHELL!", then she embraced me with the warmest hug. When I felt the presence of  Raye's spirit today, I was rereading an article from The New York Times called, "How to Maintain Friendships." Since her death, I realized the importance of friendships and wanted to reach out to old friends and reconnect with them. As I was reading the article, I noticed the suggestions that were given, were all tools Raye used to stay in touch with me. I thought, "Wow, this is why I felt she was a good friend and even though we didn't communicate every day, I felt connected with her. One of the suggestions  the article gave th…

New Space

Faith it Til ya Make it

Its the end of the year and i have completed a full year in my 30's. Let me tell you, it still feels like i have know idea of what I'm doing with life!! But its cool. Because somehow, i found myself in a amazing space that God has guided me to. I'm still working on myself. Spiritually, mentally and physically to be that women i aspire to be. I can see her enjoying every aspect of life and living her best life. But for now its a journey and i have to remember to not be so hard on myself and be patient. (whatever patient is). Im just grateful im not alone. I know a lot of us are all just winging it and praying everything goes well. But to me that's really beautiful, frustrating, but beautiful. My family and friends are my strength and i would trade them for world. :)  They are my back bone...anyway, Be easy folks...We got This!!

71st BDAY

October 7th my dad turned 73!!! My dad is a man who loves the Ocean and since i couldn't take him on vacation anywhere i wanted to do something special and bring the Ocean to him :).  I did       (HaHa.. I made an Ocean Cake) and he loved it!!